The Rantings of a Scribbler.

Flickr Favs: Photographer Highlight

2009-11-01T14:53:00.000-08:00

Hi peeps! While being in my sick bed my favorite thing to do, besides sleep of course, was to explore Flickr and add a whole bunch of new favorites to my collection. There are some people though that are just far too amazing and talented to not be shared with you! I might have shown you some work by some of them already, but most of them I have not. These are my Flickr Five so to speak. Haha :)

Hope you enjoy some of their fantabulous photos!!!!!!

Is there anyone on Flickr you feel is just superb? Any photographer you think needs a mention? Please share!!!!

Sincerely,
The Scribbler

P.S. Sorry for my overly obsessive use of Francesca Woodman photography. Though sadly dead, she has a lot of brilliant work.

Michael Jackson: This Is It

2009-10-31T11:13:00.000-07:00

Hi peeps!!!! Sorry for the long absence!!! I hope to be able to get back into the swing of things soon!!!

So I recently, just yesterday in fact, I had the opportunity to see This Is It. The Michael Jackson movie. It was so beyond fabulous. Everything was just so big and huge!!! A must see for any Michael Jackson fan. A must see for anyone really. It’s all based around the This Is It tour MJ was about to go on when he got killed. You wouldn’t just be able to call it a concert though. It was a theatrical performance!!!!

Anyways. I think that there are some great lessons that we can learn from Michael Jackson. I never realized how into trying to save the world he was. Just look at his songs Planet Love, Heal The World, and Man In The Mirror. He knew what he was talking about. Planet Love is so intense in This Is It. It really makes you think of what you are doing to this earth. Then the lyrics of Heal The World hit because it seems whenever I try telling anyone about helping the planet they always say well I’ll be dead by the time that happens so why should I do anything about it. And then my favorite is Man In The Mirror. It starts with you.

So people, listen to the messages MJ was trying to send us. Its up to us to fix our dying world :)

Sincerely,
The Scribbler

P.S. - I just thought of this. How ironic is it that it’s called This Is It?

My Apologies

2009-10-27T13:02:00.000-07:00

(Sorry!! I lost the link to this photo!!!)

Hey peeps. Sorry for the lack of anything interesting lately. It’s the last week of the term and I of coarse had a dreadful illness relapse. So please stick with me and I promise to post something worth your while as soon as possible. Thanks!!!!

P.S. - It is snowing outside!!!! For cereal!!!!!! It’s a little early for that even in my neck of the woods.

Sincerly,

The Scribbler

A Self Reminder

2009-10-19T18:35:00.000-07:00

Death is not the biggest fear we have; our biggest fear is taking the risk to be alive -- the risk to be alive and express what we really are. - Don Miguel Ruiz

Only when we are no longer afraid do we begin to live. - Dorothy Thompson

Be not afraid of life. Believe that life is worth living, and your belief will help create the fact. - Henry James

Sincerly,

The Scribbler

The Music That Saves You

2009-10-16T09:15:00.000-07:00

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Being in the bought of sickness has left me physically, mentally, and emotionally pretty dead. Being a person who I'm pretty sure suffers from an anxiety disorder, I do not cope with this inability to get anything done and falling behind very well. You always hear that if you are sick you need to stay home, but then they make it so impossible for you to be succesful if you do because of the massive amounts of work you miss. Also adding my insomnia with my constant and compleate exhaustion, this is not going very well at all. But anywho, music helps me through it. Does it not seem like music is always there for you?

Here are the songs getting me through these past few days:

Cavanaugh Park- Something Corporate
Breathe- Angels & Airwaves
One Thing- Finger Eleven
Elizabeth On The Bathroom Floor- Eels
Konstantine- Something Corporate
Crack The Shutters- Snow Patrol
Now That I'm Dying- Attack In Black
Blue Lips- Regina Spektor
Seasons Of Love- Original Broadway Cast "Rent"

I've been listening to a lot of Eels lately. I Need Some Sleep is a great one for going to sleep to but alas I do not own it.

And I am super stoked because I am going to see Regina Spektor live in like three weeks!!!!!!!!!!!

"Music was my refuge. I could crawl into the space between the notes and curl my back to loneliness." ~Maya Angelou, Gather Together in My Name

So what songs have been helping you get through the day? What songs are giving you the courage to keep moving on?

Things I Love Thursday

2009-10-14T14:21:00.000-07:00

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My Things I love Thursday list... on Wednesday. Because sometimes that's just what you need.

Cute boyfriends who make you feel better.
Quotes. Their simply yummy and I am horribly addicted to collecting them.
Not answering the phone. Seriously. Life would be so much easier with caller ID.
Annotating fascinating articles.
Driving with people who are driving for the first time. It makes me laugh.
Balloons (preferably yellow)
“You talk like an artist… or an anarchist.”
Good health- You never realize how great it is until you lose it.
Stripes (according to my best friend I am sexually attracted to them)
My Sociology class
The ability to make playlists on your iPod without having to get on the computer. It’s a lifesaver I tell ya.
Reincarnated bunnies who eat cheeps. No you are not supposed to get it.
Being able to sleep (I’ve been an insomniac for over a month)
Not wasting water *hint hint*
Being different. Oh yes you got it. I LOVE IT!!!!!
Describing the face of the person you love most and the person that scares you most. Try it.
Making lists :)

Sorry if I seem sort of off or depressed today. I am terribly sick :P

Sincerly,

The Scribbler

A Yoko Ono Moment

2009-10-12T19:23:00.001-07:00

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Go to a playground.

Watch the children play.

Remember the joys of youth.

The Revolution

2009-10-11T18:54:00.000-07:00

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Dear people,

I have had a lot of changes happen in my way of thinking lately. Between my psychology, sociology, and government classes, and the books and music I have been listening to/reading I just can’t continue this blog the way it is. I am right now a confused bundle of mixed ideas, but am starting to get them straitened out. There are like a thousand fashion blogs out there which is what this was kind of turning out to be. Yet when trying to find blogs that aligned with the ideas that I am thinking now, I found none. So I need to write it. I am not going to start a new blog I am just going to keep going off of this one, but it will be very different. I am hoping to start giving you a mixed bag of things sociologically related, psychology related, writing, self improvement, planet love, etc. I want to mix feminist ideas with the ideas of fashion and style. I feel like that’s who I am, but there seems to be nothing else like that out there. Why should I have to choose either extreme? I want to help people to love themselves, others, and the planet. I want to get people feeling again. In my sociology class we were watching this video and a guy, whose name I sadly can’t remember, said something like that the problem with America is that we’ve stopped feeling. We need to get the anger again. The passion. We need to take it upon ourselves to get our ideas out there and make change. Please stick around and help/ bare with me through these changes. Sorry for the upheaval.

Sincerly,

The scribbler

Never Give Up!!!!

2009-10-08T20:39:00.000-07:00

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I have another video for you all. It is a great motivation video. Real super quick again so you should watch it. Yet again I do not know how to post videos so here is the link:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RmTxr7OsPj0

Seriously think about this people. Life= Risk.

Wishing you luck,

The Scribbler

Dove Evolution

2009-10-05T14:44:00.000-07:00

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Hey peeps!! I just received this video that ya’ll should see. It is pretty brilliant and makes you think a bit. For anyone who has every struggled to have a positive self body image. Haven’t most girls? Even boys. Anywho, here is the link:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q4TV_Avo4zg

It's super short so please watch it and share it!! It's totally worth it!!!

Wishing you super self love,

The Scribbler

Decora: Japanese Street Style

2009-10-04T09:23:00.000-07:00

Have you guys ever heard of the Japanese street style called Decora? Well if you haven’t it is definitely something you should check out. Whether it turns out to be your cup of tea or not I think its something that’s at least worth a level of admiration for the complexity level of it. You generally, at least around where I live, don’t see anything even close to this awesome!

Here are several pictures for you. Enjoy!

So much pink...

But so worth it!!!

Hyper love and happy days,

The Scribbler

Things I Love Thursday

2009-10-01T23:06:00.000-07:00

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Finally I am posting another Things I Love Thursday List! Yay!

John Lennon (obviously)
Black patent leather
Lovely people who will let me mooch rides from them
Halloween!!! I am stoked!!!!!
A good night’s sleep and plenty of it.
True people. True to themselves and true to others.
Studs of all shapes and sizes.
Day dreaming about becoming a modern day hippie.
Coats/blankets with a pulse :)
Breaks that are not connected to a holiday.
Healthy, correctly proportioned, vegetarian meals.
RDT’s performance of Lady of The Lake. I love how it was put, “This is a unique duet between a women and water.
Hot glue guns. You can work magic with these things.
People who serve others.
Not being old. I am not looking forward to that.
Volkswagen buses. It’s my dream car!
Bunny kisses…
Kitty kisses…
Puppy kisses...
Etc :)

So what do you love this week?

The Ultimate Question

2009-09-27T16:49:00.000-07:00

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Dear, sweet, beautiful, people. I have a question for anyone whose eyes glance this by. Why can't I seem to get any readers? For cereal. What is it I am doing or not doing that is making so that people don't comment? I know that I get views, but I have yet to hear from anyone that looks at my blog.

So I am asking you to please please leave me a comment answering my question. If you do I will

love you forever!!!

So much thanks!!!!!

Kisses and hugs,

The Scribbler

Inspiration Station

2009-09-26T12:20:00.000-07:00

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My recent inspiration. Things that are changing and shaping my life.

John Lennon. I know how many times can I talk about the Beatles and things Beatles related, but still. If you have not taken the time to really try and listen to them you probably aren’t really alive. Anywho though, I am currently majorly crushing on John Lennon and everything Lennon related. He was so brilliant. I ran into this book yesterday at Barnes and Noble. I didn’t buy it, but I would seriously love to own it.

I woke up yesterday after having a rough night the day before and just feeling really pessimistic and gross, but I put my iPod on shuffle and started getting ready just like any other day when this song came on. It was Give Peace a Chance by John Lennon. I had never heard it before like 50% of the stuff on my iPod, but I just stopped and listened. It was brilliant. I right then decided to fix a few of the problems I had probably created the night before. I continued that day, and it seemed like one of those days that just wants to be bad for you no matter what, but I just thought of that song, and instead of being depressed and angry I tried to smile at everyone I passed and be really nice to people that I didn’t even necessarily like. I did this all day and even at night when more issues jumped in my way. I put it on and drifted into a good sleep. I believe this song has seriously changed my life.

Another really good one to listen to is Gimme Some Truth. I love his Christmas song too. But really they are all great.

All this thinking about John got me thinking about Yoko, whom I’ve admired since I found her temporary blog 100 Acorns. It has beautiful nuggets of inspiration such as:

“Imagine yourself being
In your mother’s womb
As an embryo
Stay in the position for awhile
Ask yourself if you still wish to come out
Into the world with all your knowledge
You have of what happened to you
And how you affected others”

And:

“Get a telephone that only echoes back your voice.
Call every day and complain and moan
About your life and people around you.”

If that doesn’t affect you in some way then we must be really very different people.

Charles Bukowski.

A couple of weeks ago I finally bought a book of his poetry. I’ve love his work for a long time so I was really excited about purchasing this book.

There are lots of great things in it such as this:

“… but I remember one fellow who wrote n
Entire book in which he proved that the moon was not there
And he did it so well that afterwards you thought, he’s
Absolutely right, the moon is not there.

How the hell is a young man going to deign to work an
8 hour day when the moon isn’t even there?
What else
Might be missing?”
-days like razors, nights full of rats

Then also last night I read this poem and was again so inspired:

Air and light time and space

“- you know, I’ve either had a family, a job, something
has always been in the
way
But now
I’ve sold my house, I’ve found this
Place, a large studio, you should see the space and
The light
For the first time in my life I’m going to have the place and the time to
Create.”

No baby, if you’re going to create
You’re going to create whether you work
16 hours a day in a coal mine
Or
You’re going to create in a small room with three children
While you’re on
Welfare
You’re going to create with part of your mind and your
Body blown
Away,
You’re going to create blind
Crippled
Demented,
You’re going to create with a cat
Crawling up your
Back while
The whole city trembles in earthquake, bombardment
Flood and fire

Baby, air and light and time and space
Have nothing to do with it
And don’t create anything
Except maybe a longer life to find
New excuses
For

So brilliant.

And just a few good quotes from the book I am reading Kite Runner by Khaled Hosseini:

I see you’ve confused what you’re learning in school with an actual education.
Strangely, I was glad that someone knew me for who I really was; I was tired of pretending
And that’s the thing about people who mean everything they say. They think everyone else does too.
Children aren’t coloring books. You don’t get to fill them with your favorite colors.
There is only one sin, only one. And that is theft… when you kill a man, you steal a life. You steal his wife’s right to a husband, rob his children of a father. When you tell a lie, you steal someone’s right to the truth. When you cheat, you steal the right to fairness.

I wanted that, to move on, to forget, to start with a clean slate. I wanted to be able to breathe again.

So that’s my recent inspiration. What about you? Anything that’s got you excited or thinking a new way? Music, writing, art, anything. Feel free to share!!

Love you always,
The Scribbler

Rockin With The Beatles

2009-09-20T20:23:00.000-07:00

As you can all probably tell from my post Across The Universe, I am a huge fan of the Beatles. They are simply brilliant, so when I heard that they were coming out with a Beatles Rock Band I was super stoked! I had the fortunate opportunity to play it yesterday and guess what… IT ROCKS!!!!!!!!! It has a ton of fabulous Beatles songs and is in the same format as a normal Rock Band game would be. One of the really cool things about it is you can play it in career mode. You follow the songs in the order of the Beatles creating them. It is interesting to see the different phases like that. Another really unique cool thing about it is the backgrounds behind the notes you are looking at. It has the Beatles in the recording studio, the stage, and my personal favorite trippin’. It is seriously cool. While playing I kept watching the back drop and forgetting to play the notes. I Am The Walrus has the coolest one I would say. You can also purchase special instruments just for that version of the game. They are replicas of the Beatles instruments and are seriously cool.

While the price is a bit high for me to go purchase it myself, and I don’t really have a lot of time for games, I found The Beatles Rock Band to be uber fun and a must have for Beatles fans. There’s no way you can’t be into it while you’re playing!!!!

Wishing you a groovalishis hopping day,
The Scribbler

Link Lovin'

2009-09-13T21:13:00.000-07:00

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Me bringing some link lovin’ to YOU!!!!!!!!!!

D.I.Y. embellished tights tutorial. Pretty coolio.
Ten steps to becoming a better writer.
Meadowlark has some amazing jewlery!!!
Imagine this, but with the rope around his neck.
Hahahaha. This is really funny. If you have seen If a Man Answers, look at this this.
Two new blog loves. Studded Hearts and Foxy Man. They are brill. You should check them out.
Nubby is so cool. Here he is bringing more MJ love.
Also from Nubby. Her wanderings through New York.
Another great blog I found. I like this and this especially.
Any of you poets out there? One Night Stanzas is a great poetry blog. Here is a poem I found on there that I really liked.

Happy Bunny Circles,
The Scibbler

Why Women Wear Heels (A.K.A. Why I ordered a pair of stripper heels and didn’t realize it until they came today.)

2009-09-12T09:34:00.000-07:00

Let’s face it. Since the dawn of time women have been in love with shoes. There is just something about them that makes our little hearts flutter with a feeling of euphoria that is just like being in love. But why? What is it about a finely crafted heel that we so love? Is it the feeling of invincibility that we get when we put it on, that they make our legs; even the shortest and most stubby; look 1000 miles long, or is it just simply the fact that when a truly epic pair is worn we make both guys and girls heads turn alike? The answer? All of the above!

When I put on a pair of heels it instantly boosts my self esteem and confidence. The higher the heel the better I feel. Does anyone else get that? Hence when I found this pair of 5 ¾ inch heels with triple buckle closure I just had to have them. I mean when given the opportunity to feel THAT great about themselves, who wouldn’t?

And then there is the legs that go on as far as the eye can see. I am all about loving your own body and self acceptance believe me, but hasn’t every girl at at least one point in their lives wanted to be the toothpick model with the spidery limbs? I think most of us have. Heels do that for you and you don’t even have to get plastic surgery or stop eating!!! It is so great.

As for the head turning, it is also very true. How many of you have been rocking out in an awesome pair of kick butt heels and noticed that everyone just seems to be looking at you? This is only to be confirmed through out the day by the massive amounts of smiles you get from the guys and compliments you get from the girls. It is another self esteem thing which is ultimatly what this is turning out to be.

So really what was I thinking then when I purchased these heels? I was thinking those rock and I am going to rock in them. And when I am walking down the street today looking good and feeling confident, I won’t be caring in the slightest if the abnormally large height of my footwear make some people think I am putting out for pay, because they make me happy and that’s all I’m asking for in this world.

Wishing you as much happiness,

The Scribbler

Style Files: Inspiration

2009-09-06T20:29:00.000-07:00

Love,

The Scribbler

Quotes

2009-08-31T15:29:00.000-07:00

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Ok people. I have a confession to make. I love quotes. I am a complete junkie. I have been collecting them for the past two years or so, and have notebooks over flowing. They are such a big part of my life. So… I thought that I would share some of my newest finds with you!! Aren’t you lucky ;)

(Note: I do not know all of the authors of these quotes. I do not claim credit on them. If you know feel free to share.)

Your handwriting. The way you walk. Which china patterns you choose. It’s all giving you away. Everything you do shows your hand. Everything is a self portrait. Everything is a diary. -Chuck Palahniuk
Darling I don’t know how to tell you this, but there’s a Chinese family in our bathroom. – 500 Days of Summer
The truth is always an insult or a joke. Lies are generally tastier. We love them. The nature of lies is to please. Truth has no concern for anyones comfort. -Arturo Binewski
Never a lip curved with pain that can’t be kissed into a smile again. -Brete Harte
Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.
Speak your mind even if your voice shakes.
Your friends may love you. But they don’t want you to change. If you change, then there dynamic with you also changes. They like things the way they are, that’s how they love you- the way you are, not the way you may become.
No matter how thin you get, no matter how short you cut your hair, it’s still going to be you underneath. – Marya Hornbacher
He smiled like an innocent lion- S.E. Hinton
I think of style as wearing your insides on your outsides.

Those are just a few of my newest quote loves. Hope you liked them!! Feel free to share your opinions!!

Wishing you a non-sucky Monday,
The Scribbler

How to Make Your Own Eye Primer

2009-08-25T18:08:00.000-07:00

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I have found that if you wear any type of bright eye make up at all, it comes off quite quickly and creases quite easily unless you put an eye primer on before your shadow and liner. Unfortunately it can cost huge amounts of money for just a tiny bottle of this magic potion! Who really wants to shell out major bucks for something so small? Luckily for you I am going to teach you how to make your own right now.

Supplies needed:

Liquid Concealer in your skin tone.
White body butter.
Some sort of small container with a lid.
A popsicle stick.
A toothpick.

Step 1- Take a small portion of the body butter and put it in the container using the popsicle stick.

Step 2- Pour an equal amount of your concealer into the container. Amounts can vary a little, but it will work best if you have equal proportions of each product.

Step 3- Stir with the tooth pick until completely blended and smooth.

Step 4- Wear and enjoy!!!

As you can see this is pretty simple and strait forward, but very effective. Through simple homerun tests I’ve found that it is dramatically more effective then wearing nothing at all, and only slightly less effective then the more expensive primer that you can buy from the makeup companies. So ultimately, unless you are fortunate enough to have money raining out of the sky, using a homemade primer, such as this one, is a really great idea. It’s simple. It’s cheap. And it makes your life just that much easier and your eye makeup just that more fabulous.

Fabulous love and kitty kisses,

The Scribbler

When there's nothing else left

2009-08-20T23:23:00.000-07:00

All photos from Le Love.

Link Lovin'

2009-08-17T23:52:00.000-07:00

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Here are some more links for you. Just some loves I've found online recently:

I found this poem the other day and really like it. I find it to be quite inspiring.
While your looking at poetry you should look up Charles Bukowski and Richard Brautigan
How can they look so hot as a wizard nerds and just so not everywhere else?
I don’t know how I feel about Kingdom Of Style in general, but some of there stuff lately I have just loved to pieces. Such as This, This, This, This, and This
IMDB is short for the International Movie Data Basis. It is amazing for anything you ever need to know about anything movie or actor.
She reminds me of a spider. I so admire her.

I heart Nubby for this. I think people are far too judgmental about Michael Jackson.

Love,

The Scribbler

Dear People

2009-08-17T22:33:00.000-07:00

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Dear People,

There is a change in my plan. when starting this blog I was trying to model it too much like other peoples. I was also trying to make it too rigid and unflexible which is so not me. I then considered stopping even though I really enjoyed writing, but ultimatly I just decided that I will continue, but just be a little more... I don't know... me. I think this will work out greatly.

Love you all,

The Scribbler

Flickr Favs

2009-07-27T10:01:00.000-07:00

As has been previously stated I am in love with Flickr as of late, and this has resulted in my speanding some time on there. Here are some of my favorite picks of the week. Haha. That's punny.

This is the above picture. Just some Juno Lovin' for you.

This is hot!!!

I love stuff like this. Creepy dolls and blood. Purrr.

This is so true. Everyone take note.

I love bunnies!! They’re just so cute!!!!

Converse = True love.

I wish this was my hair so flippen bad!!! Someday…

Wow.

This is the type of morbid humor that I enjoy.

But on a happier note. Bubbles are so magical and inspiring!!!!

Have a bubble blowingly fantastical week,

The Scribbler

Across the Universe

2009-07-26T23:10:00.000-07:00

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Last night I watched Across The Universe for the first time. And I have to saw WOW!!!! It was pretty epic. I had heard a lot of things about it. From people I know and love, that it was absolutely amazing. From the majority of the small minded people in my area, that it was a total drug trip. I personally thought it was extremely inspiring!! For those of you who don’t know what it is, it is a movie/musical formed by a compilation of Beatles songs. It totally rocks!!!

Things I Learnt from Across The Universe:

New York is where it’s happening!!!
The Beatles were brilliant.
When all else fails turn to the strawberries.
Being in the military is as though you were carrying the weight of the Statue of Liberty and all of America on your back.
All you need is love.
There is more then one way to live.
Changing anything comes for a price.
Talk all major decisions through with those that it seriously involves.
Death highly affects us.
It used to be a lot easier to hitch hike.
Televisions block your creative power. Turn to music!!!
There’s a Beatles song for everything.
Life is hard.
Who you surround yourself with makes a big difference.
Unless you dig random people coming through your windows, keep them shut or buy a screen.
Etc.

Anything you would like to add? Any opinions? Feel free to comment.

Super Love,

The Scribbler

Link Lovin'

2009-07-26T12:19:00.000-07:00

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Here, just for you, is some link lovin'. Just some great things I have found on the web this week:

Yoko Ono is brilliant.

Dr. Martin Revloution. I’m a big fan of the shoe, but I don’t know if I am so up for the trend.

That being said, Dr. Martens are fantasmical and you should check out the wide variety of fabulous footwear that they have for sale.

Now to the polar opposite end of footwear. I am sure most of us don’t find this to be too depressing.

I love the post secret website. They have books too which are pretty cool. You can check them out here.

Poor Kid.

The Dream Walking Society has some pretty amazing photos.

Le Love is so freaking awesome it’s not even funny. It manages to fill me with happiness and love every post. This is my favorite of the week. Though it is a little sad…

Whole episodes of Bewitched are now on Youtube!!!! Enjoy your favorite, old TV classics for free!!

And last but most certinly not least...

Tim Burton's Alice In Wonderland official film trailer!!!!! I have been stoked for this for years!!!! I can't wait until March 5th for it to come out!!!!!

Hugs and cookies,

The Scribbler

Things I Love Thursday

2009-07-23T10:19:00.000-07:00

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Things I Love Thursday is a list of things that I love and appreciate that I write every Thursday. This idea came from the beautiful and gorgeous Miss Gala Darling, who started doing this a while ago. For a large chunk of time I never quite got the point and maybe even thought it was a bit stupid, but I have recently realized how amazing it is. Taking a few minutes to think about what you love and what you’re grateful for can make your whole day better. Do this when you start falling into a bad mood and it totally turns that around. With out further ado, my Things I Love Thursday list for this week:

· Flickr
· My Boyfriend
· Bunny Rabbits
· Healing
· Self Love
· Juno
· My Backyard
· The inspiration that comes from Peeps
· Things that are the exact same color as my hair
· Budding Friendships
· People who think like me
· Sweet unexpected texts
· Empty Houses
· The colors the sunset casts on the world
· Brushing my teeth

What’s on your TilT list?

Lots of love,

The Scribbler

Communication: It can save you a lot of trouble.

2009-07-22T23:05:00.000-07:00

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Dear People,

I have noticed that lately in my life I have had a lot of trouble with my relationships with people. While trying to figure out what it was that was making things so rocky I thought about my various relationships and what made them what they were. And with all this contemplation I noticed there was a pattern.

Sometimes there are things that just need to be said for the benefit of all those involved. These things often go unsaid because they could be painful or hurtful to the person it is being said to. This ultimately just causes more problems in the relationship. If something is bothering a person in a companionship, either romantic or just a friendship, and it continues to go unsaid and un-discussed then it just remains to sit and to fester, until it eventually explodes.

Like I said, lately I’ve been having a lot of difficulty with my relationships with some of my closest friends. The only real solid relationship I have would be with my boyfriend and that’s because I practice this open communication. If something bugs me I say so and visa versa, so then we can just get over it. If you leave it be then it just grows and builds until it is too large for you to really handle with out a major strain on the relationship. I have two examples for you of what can happen if you don’t speak your mind and communicate with your loved ones:

Friend Example#1: We got along great and hung out every week and generally just had a good time together. She started getting upset about certain things and I would get upset back, but we never really talked about it. Occasionally we would try but whenever it got heated she would back out. Then she just started acting like there was nothing wrong. She pretended that we were still great friends and that nothing had happened. Ultimately we just stopped talking about it. We were, at least it felt like it to me, fake friends. She would talk about some things in her life, but if I even brought up certain subjects in mine it would create automatic tension. So I just stopped trying. I didn’t tell her anything. We are still “great friends” But really. Not talking about things just ruined our relationship. You have to get through the heat to heal.

Friend Example #2: We had been best friends for around four years. We had always been kind of opposites, but we off set each other so it worked out greatly. At the beginning I was still kind of nervous around her so I would do things that she liked to do and try to be interested in what she was interested in, but as time moved on I became more and more comfortable around her so I was less and less fake. This worked well until we hit high school and I really started trying to “find myself”. I was so sick of being a mediocre clone of everyone else. So I started trying to figure out who I was. And I found that the closer I came to me the farther away I was from her. But we just kept pretending like nothing was happening. Long story short we avoided the issues for a long time. Neither of us liked what each other was doing or who each other was anymore, but neither of us said anything. We just kept acting like everything was the same, until it also exploded. It wasn’t pretty.

Sadly there are times where relationships can’t be saved, and you need to let them go, but please don’t try and end it before it is really through!!! You need to talk about what’s bothering you and try to work it out! Fight! And then if you have done everything that you could have possibly done and worked at it from every angle can you let it go. Letting go can be one of the hardest things for you to do, but sometimes it is necessary for life to get better for everyone involved.

Do you get what I am trying to say? Just communicate with your loved ones! Tell them how you feel when they do certain things and how when they say _____ you feel _____. Not just the bad but the good too. This is the only way to have a true and honest relationship.

I just told another friend something that needed to be said in order for our friendship to continue to grow. I am talking to them about it right now as I am writing this. And I don’t know how it’s going to turn out, but what I can tell you is that whatever happens, it will be for the best.

With greatest of wishes,
The Scribbler

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